An Absence of Obligations


It has been difficult this week getting back in to work. I am lucky enough to have a job that I really enjoy, even though it can be stressful at times. I am good at turning my work phone off and completely shutting off from work when I am on leave. I did check my emails on Sunday afternoon just to see what I would be returning to on Monday morning and I felt an absence of any enthusiasm for getting back work.

On Monday morning Mr Simple was sitting at the breakfast table looking as though he completely lacked any interest for the day ahead. When I asked him if he was struggling to get going after our staycation he said that it had been nice last week not having any obligations.

I think that the difference between our staycation and our usual holidays is that when you are away you know that it is not reality, you are staying somewhere different, often having meals out every day and it is quite clearly not the norm. Last week, on the other hand, featured a lot of our usual life – the same environment, eating out at our favourite restaurant and visiting places on our doorstep.

On some FIRE blogs I have come across the suggestion of taking mini-retirements, a few months off from work in order to practise being retired. From my perspective I had always seen this as something that wasn’t possible. I can’t just take a few months off work as my employer doesn’t allow it, so practising what having achieved FIRE would look like has not been on my radar. Looking back at our staycation I can see that it was a ‘mini’ mini-retirement. A glimpse of what life could be like if we didn’t have to go to work, or as Mr Simple put it, if we didn’t have any obligations. I think that this is why I have struggled getting back into work, as it involves doing things that I don’t want to do, which to some extent everyone’s working life contains.

On Monday I almost wished that I had never discovered the FIRE movement. Before, I was just ticking along nicely, planning to retire maybe at 60, not realising that anything else was possible. I almost felt resentment about having to work, which is a shame, because, as I say, on the whole I enjoy what I do.

Our main aim is to pay off our mortgage, which I know not everyone agrees with, but that is what we want to achieve. Any other objectives have to date been quite vague, but having had a taste of the good life has made me more determined to consider exactly what we are striving towards. As Stephen Covey says, ‘begin with the end in mind’. We need to know our destination before we make a plan as to how we are going to get there. So that’s my challenge to myself over the next few months, to get a clear picture of what our ideal life would be like and then draw up a roadmap of how we are going to get there.

So have you tried a staycation or a mini-retirement? If so, how did it feel when you didn’t have those usual obligations? I would love to hear. If you haven’t tried it, how about having a staycation over the next few months to get a taster of what life could look like at the end of your FIRE journey.

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