Build habits which will give you more of this

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Over the life time of this blog I have been making my way through Tom Corley’s thirty habits in his book, Rich Habits Poor Habits. So far I have looked at ten of them, so I thought that it would be a good point to take a breath, remind myself of what they were and have a look at how I’m getting on with trying out some of his ideas. If you’ve missed any of the posts I’ll link back to each one for you below so you can check out the full details. I will also let you know other resources that I’ve come across recently which may help you if you want to work on a certain area.

So here we go…

Number One – I will adopt good daily habits and follow these good daily habits every day

I’ve been doing some reading about habits recently as I am re-reading James Clear’s book ‘Atomic Habits’ and making some notes. I was going to write a post about it, but Latestarterfire beat me to it, so I would just suggest that you read her post. You can also listen to James Clear talk about his book on the Afford Anything podcast.

During another, more recent episode of Afford Anything, Paula Pant’s interviewee, Kristen Berman, claimed that habits are overrated and you should foster one time decisions that force behaviour change e.g. if you want to save, set up a direct debit to your savings account from your current account on pay day or if you want to walk more, get a dog as it will force you to go out twice a day no matter what the weather. (By the way, if you are thinking of getting a dog, then I would strongly recommend reading Chrissy’s post on her recent decision to give a home to a four-legged friend). Although Kristen almost dismissed habits, much of her advice about cultivating behaviour change was similar to that of James Clear so it is worth a listen to both of the episodes.

Number Two – I will define my dreams and then create goals around each dream. I will focus on my dream-goals every day

This is such an important area. Many of us plan for our weekends and our holidays, but we don’t plan for our lives, we don’t think about where we want to end up. We just follow the same route as everyone else, school, maybe university, job, long term relationship, children, grandchildren, retirement, death. A lot of that may be very enjoyable (except for the death part, obviously), but there are other possibilities, other realities, you just have to be brave enough to be different. For me this is a constant work in progress as I am still working out what my dreams and goals are. How about you? Is your life going to way to you want it to? Are you just doing what is expected of you by others rather than making a conscientious choice? If you want some help setting goals then listen to this podcast by Natalie Bacon.

Number Three – I will devote at least thirty minutes each day to increasing my knowledge and improving my skills. I will invest in myself every day

I have certainly improved my knowledge over the past few months through reading and listening to podcasts, but my skills are probably much the same. In a bid to invest in myself and this blog I have recently purchased the Genius Blogger’s Toolkit, an amazing package of courses, which should help me to develop ‘A Simple Life’ over the next six months. So watch this space!

How are you increasing your knowledge and skills? There is so much free information available these days. Whether it’s online or from real books from the library don’t let yourself stagnate. Learning shouldn’t just be something that you did at school.

Eat plenty of this to keep you healthy

Number Four – I will devote thirty minutes to exercise every day. I will eat healthy food every day

I manage the healthy eating part of this most days, but it is the exercise portion which I am still struggling with. I have been doing a small amount of jogging a couple of times a week and when we had a trainee assistance dog recently I did do a lot more walking, but on many days I won’t even do 2000 steps. Basically, I could do much better and it is definitely an area I need to work on, probably like most of us.

Number Five – I will seek to build strong relationships with other success-minded people

I have been making an effort to keep some notes on other professionals who I meet through work; details they tell me about themselves so that I can refer to them if we are going to meet again and ask them questions, showing that I have remembered what they told me before. Okay, I haven’t remembered, I’ve written it down, but I’m only human and the more I chat to someone about their lives the more details that I retain. I am hoping this will help build relationships at work. One difficulty is that I don’t actually want more success in my job. I am content with my role and plan to do this until I retire.

As for in my personal life I struggle to find anyone who is interested in personal development or FI/RE in real life and just rely on my virtual ‘friends’. I am trying to make an effort to join in with local events e.g. there was a community cinema event last week and recently I went to see a play in the village hall.

How do you connect with likeminded people and where do you find them? Are your friends interested in personal development?

Number Six – I will live every day in a state of moderation

In many ways I am a moderate person. I am calm and not subject to extremes of emotion, but my savings rate is not moderate, it is extreme and so should yours be. How else can we achieve our financial goals otherwise? This month we are living out of the freezer in a bid to save money on food and so far it is going well. I’ll let you know how we get on in my usual monthly review.

Number Seven – I will take action on my goals every day

This is hard as my goals are personal rather than work ones and I don’t always seem to find the time or I am too tired to work on them. If I take the week as a whole I do feel as though I make progress, but finding the time to work on the blog is hard. I have been helping Mr Simple with some DIY for a couple of evenings this week and last week I had social engagements on several evenings. When I come home at 10pm I just want to go to bed rather than turn on my computer and write an article. Basically, this is a work in progress.

What are your goals? How do you manage to make progress on them? Have you tried writing a monthly review to reflect on your progress? I think this is such a good way of seeing how far you’ve come.

Write down every day what you are grateful for

Number Eight – I will engage in rich thinking every day

The practice of gratitude is one which I used to do, but it has fallen by the wayside. I have just started reading ‘The Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod and one of his six activities for the morning is ‘scribing’, which can just be writing about what you are grateful for. Whether or not I will be adopting his advice for how to structure the beginning of my day is yet to be seen, but I do feel that often we look on the bad side and are prone to moaning, so a focus on what we are grateful for can only be a good thing.

Number Nine – I will save ten per cent of my income and live off the remaining 90%

This is an area in which as you know I am ahead of Mr Corley as I save 16% as well as paying double our mortgage payment. If you don’t currently save anything though it would be a good starting point.

Number Ten – I will control my words and emotions every day

I’ve already mentioned Natalie Bacon, who is one of my favourite podcasters. She is rather an over-excited and very ‘American’ presenter (sorry to any of you from across the water who might be reading this), for whom everything is ‘awesome’, but nevertheless her advice about modifying your thought processes is amazing. I continue to meditate most days and look forward to her weekly advice which is always interesting and gives a new perspective on life. I cannot recommend her work enough as she is fascinating and her shows are usually fairly short, 20-25 minutes.

So that’s all the habits that we have looked at so far. Each one could be a book in itself. I don’t hear Rich Habits Poor Habits mentioned often, but it is such a fascinating and useful piece of work as it is not just his views on how to get rich, but written after he carried out a study of people who grew rich. If you are interested to find out more check out his book or stay tuned as I will be considering the rest of his habits over the coming months. And if you’ve made any progress in these areas or have any questions just let me know. Or, just fill in the blank: I will work on Tom Corley’s habit number ___ over the next month.